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Why I Decided to Give My Children an Online Education

14 Monday Mar 2016

Posted by Darielle Brooklyn in Education, Homeschool, Uncategorized

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children, Education, Homeschool, online school, school, teens, virtual school

First let me say one thing. There were things about public school that we actually did enjoy.

I loved helping out in my boys’ classrooms as well as volunteering in the school library during their library time and volunteering in their art class. I loved being their room mom, attending their class parties, their field trips and watching them enjoy field day. The boys loved all of these things as well. There were also school festivals, the Mother and Son Dances and other events we also all enjoyed.

Yes, there were some fun experiences they got in the public school system. But after a very long talk over many, many months, as a family we decided that we wanted something different.

We no longer wanted to be rushed in the mornings.
We no longer wanted to feel overwhelmed everyday.
We wanted a more relaxed, schedule-free and flexible pace of life.
We wanted to be present with each other for daily moments.

Since starting online school, one of the best perks is that my children are more well-rested. They are also much healthier. There is no rushing at night to get into bed and fall asleep. They no longer have to be woken up while it’s still dark outside. They no longer need to go out during the wee hours of the morning in the freezing cold or the pouring rain. They get to go to sleep when they want and wake up when their bodies are ready. They are able to enjoy the days of the gorgeous weather and on warm days, they can swim in our pool rather than sit in a stagnant building all day long.

My children have much more freedom. They eat when they want and the food choices are much healthier. If they get hungry or thirsty, they can get whatever they want. They don’t need permission. They also don’t need to ask for permission to use the bathroom. They no longer have to wait in line for anything. They are no longer being told to be quiet or to hurry up.

Another great perk is that illnesses have pretty much left my house. They are no longer around children whose parents send them to school sick. My boys used to get strep throat 5 or 6 times a school year. I can’t remember the last time they needed an antibiotic!

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Online school gives my children the freedom to work on developing their own individual passions. When they were in public school, they were gone for 7.5 hours and then came home with hours of homework to complete. My children now finish their school work in a couple of hours and then have many hours throughout the day to develop their own passions such as music, 3D Art, drawing, writing movie scripts and more!

My boys can focus on their work without distractions from my other classmates.
For many students, school is such a huge distraction, especially where the focus in often more on socializing and fitting in rather then on learning.

I cannot tell you how often non-homeschooling people ask how I “socialize” my children outside of school. Well for one thing, I talk to them, they talk to each other, and they see their friends. We also go out often and they talk to people of all ages, which is more than I can say for school. Children who are interacting with others of all ages are exposed to much richer life experiences.

As much as people think children socialize in school, let’s be real: Socializing is strictly forbidden. The second a child walks into a classroom, they need to zip their lips and pay attention. How many times do children hear, “You’re not here to socialize.” Children literally only have a few minutes at recess and lunch or in between classes to talk. It’s no wonder why conversation devolves into slang and 4-letter words.

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Some more reasons:

  • Parents know and understand their children and are influential in their lives.
  • Children are allowed to mature at their own speeds. There is no “hurried child” syndrome.
  • Parents are the primary role models.
  • An online education provides positive and appropriate socialization with both peers and adults.
  • Peer pressure is almost non-existent.
  • There is no exposure to drugs or alcohol.
  • Children who have an online education are comfortable interacting with people of all ages.
  • Family values and beliefs are central to social, emotional and academic development.
  • Family life revolves around its own needs and priorities rather than the demands of school.
  • Positive sibling relationships are created and maintained.
  • Bullying does not exist.
  • Good communication and emotional closeness within a family is created and maintained.
  • Research shows that the two most important factors in reading and overall educational success are positive home influence and parental involvement. An online education provides both.
  • A child’s natural thirst for learning is nurtured.
  • Each child’s education can be tailored to his or her unique interests, pace, and learning style.
  • There is an abundance of time to pursue special interests and talents.
  • The flexibility is endless.
  • Children become much more independent thinkers who are secure in their own convictions.

In summary, my children are happier than they have ever been. Life isn’t about a score on a standardize test. I see so many bumper stickers about someone’s child’s education. Sad. My children are so much more than a test score. They will remember the nurturing and love they received all while still being straight A students!

Quite frankly, I’ve seen the village and I don’t want it raising my children.

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Creating Memories for Your Children

16 Tuesday Feb 2016

Posted by Darielle Brooklyn in Family, Inspiration, Uncategorized

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children, family ties, How to, Love, memories, parenting, tradition

 

 

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Making memories with your children is a way to create a lasting sense of belonging and shared identity. Making memories also builds security in children while giving them a stronger sense of safety. Memories are part of what hold family life together.

There are many simple things you can do to create memories. These days, some families’ schedules are packed with sporting activities, school projects, music lessons and more. Because of this, life’s simple pleasures are often forgotten. If you take the time to recognize life’s simple pleasures, you can begin to create meaningful bonds and create lasting memories with your children.

Making memories is not only about family vacations or day trips. What is more important in creating family memories and bonds is how we interact with our children whether it be through our words or with our actions. Wouldn’t you rather be remembered for being present and loving rather than to be remembered as the family tour guide?

Shared memories are also one of the things that strengthen the bond between parents and teenagers. The “emotional deposits” made throughout childhood make communication much easier during their teen years.

Creating happy memories for our children is something that is very easy to do and it is very inexpensive.

Below are some ideas on how you can start creating memories with your children:

Give Them the Gift of Your Time

Children become more secure, confident and cooperative when you invest in quality time with them. When you spend separate quality time with each of your children, it actually minimizes sibling rivalry. Children crave quality time with their parents due to a strong and natural drive for attention.

It is important to have separate “dates” with each of your children. Schedule one-on-one time with each one of your children. When two people are able to give each other their complete and undivided attention, bonds deepen. Joy, love and understanding are reaped. Trust me, they will cherish these days as much as you do!

When your driving, talk with your children. It’s easy to put on the radio and have them sit in the back seat, playing a video game. Turn the radio off and engage them in conversation. Ask them questions. Point things out that you see when you’re driving.

When you go out for lunch or dinner, be sure to put your cell phone away. Checking Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, your email, etc., can wait. The moment that you have with your children is precious. Take the time to talk with them. Remember when you talk to them, look at them. Eye contact is powerful.

The gift of time costs nothing yet it means absolutely everything. Take advantage of every moment. Spend every minute you can with your children. Don’t take it for granted and put it off. Tomorrow may never come.

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Write to Your Children

I have been writing to my children since before they were even born.

Buy a special journal to write in for each one of your children. Write them letters. Express your feelings, your hopes, your dreams or things you always want them to remember. By doing this, you are creating something they will cherish forever.

On special occasions, don’t just sign a card. Write them a letter right there on the card. Isn’t that so much more special than just signing “Love Mom or Love Dad?”

I started writing notes to my boys when they started preschool. I packed a note everyday with their snack. The notes soon became lunch notes and continued throughout middle school. My boys are now online schooled and I still write them notes to find when they come down for either breakfast or lunch.

Road Trips

It’s fun to just get into the car as a family and drive without any destination in mind. You will discover not only new places to visit, but you will discover new things while at the same time, building memories.

Story Time

Go to your local library and pick out a bunch of books. If your children are old enough, let them pick out the books they want you to read. Each day, at a time of your choosing, sit on the couch with a few books and read to your children. I lovingly remember sitting in the middle of my boys, each with their head on my shoulders as I read to them. Sometimes we’d wind up reading all of them and we’d have to go back to the library to get more. A great memory!

Family Traditions

In our home, we have many family traditions. A couple of our favorites are family game night and family movie night. It’s special bonding time that causes interaction as well as a whole lot of laughter.

Start your own traditions. Have a family party where you buy snacks and celebrate being a family. It’s really so much fun!

Whatever you choose to do, take the time to invest in starting family traditions. Traditions are sacred and they bond families together and make them even closer. You will never regret or forget the times your family laughed, played, and spent time quality time together and neither will your children.
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I hope this post has inspired you to start making wonderful memories with your children.

After all, isn’t family what life is all about?

 

 

 

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