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My Passion for Singing

21 Friday Jun 2024

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Everyone has that outlet in their life, something they do to replenish the energy of their soul. For some it can be gardening, biking, painting, etc…. for me, it’s singing.

At every single point in my chaotic and sometimes crazy path, music has always found its way into my world. I have listened to music from a very young age. I had a vast collection of 45’s and a decent collection of LP’s. I also always walked around with a radio. Two of my favorite artists to listen to when I was younger were Olivia Newton John and The Partridge Family but I loved pretty much everything on the radio back then. 70’s music was fabulous! Music was always there for me and has always been a factor in my life.

A passion for singing usually takes root in early childhood. For me that spark was ignited on the evening of November 4, 2022 at 9:43 p.m.

Weeks prior to that evening, my husband and I were in our kitchen having wine and playing cards, with the music blasting. I was singing along quietly to the music and my husband looked me in the eyes and said “One of these days, I’m going to get you a microphone.” I replied with something like “Yeah right! You’ll never hear me sing!”

Fast forward a couple of weeks ahead. It was a Friday night and my husband, my friend and I were having some wine at my home, again with the music blasting. A few drinks later, my husband brings out a karaoke machine and he was the first one to use it. He sang “Runaways” by The Killers. Now my husband is a drummer, not a singer and it wasn’t his best but he had a blast. We all did. I thought to myself “Wow, if he can do that sounding like he does, I can too!” Remember, I was a few drinks in. I got up and sang “Top of the World” by The Carpenters.

The rest of the evening we sang, laughed and had a great time and when I woke up the next morning, I watched the videos and the reel I posted on Facebook. I received so many nice comments on the reel that I immediately knew that I wanted to do it again the following weekend. So we did. Weekend after weekend we’d have wine, blast music and sing karaoke. I was absolutely loving it and decided to take this newfound passion to the next level.

On December 27, 2022, I had my first singing lesson. I was very nervous going and my son Joshua came with me for moral support. It was time. It was 4:00 and my vocal coach, Mike, came out to get me. It was all or nothing at this point. I could flee or I could face my fear and conquer it.

I followed him into this little room with a piano. I remember quite vividly asking him if the walls were soundproof and he told me they weren’t. My thoughts were racing. “How am I going to do this?” “I should just forget it.” “Should I run out of this room?” After talking for a few minutes and making me feel a little more relaxed, Mike played a single note on the piano and said “Ok, sing that.” Excuse me? What? Sing that? I looked at him like he had a unicorn horn sticking out of his forehead. You mean there’s no loud music to sing to? (And there is no wine involved?) How on earth will I do this?

With every ounce of passion deep within me and with every drop of courage I could find, I took a deep breath, closed my eyes and sang that single, ever-so-important note. I did it! Next we worked on scales to find my range, which I must say was quite impressive. I thought to myself “This isn’t bad at all” and I left there feeling so damn proud of myself and I couldn’t wait for the following week’s lesson to do it again!

Well I’m an all-or-nothing kind of person. I bought all kinds of music equipment: speakers, a microphone, a mixer. I purchased an app to practice vocals with, where you remove the vocals from tracks. I recorded myself daily and practiced every single day. I purchased and surrounded myself with music decor. I even had things custom made. I made a beautiful music room for myself.

In May of 2023, I decided I wanted to start a cover band to play live music out in bars, clubs, festivals… wherever I could. After auditioning many musicians and dealing with so many disappointments, the vision and dream has become an amazing reality.

I am now a lead singer and my band’s name is Daze of Dari. I have the absolute greatest bandmates. We have become family and great friends. We rehearse at a rehearsal studio every week. Our setlist is full, unique and fun and we have played out a few times and have more gigs scheduled. We play mostly in Morris County, New Jersey but we don’t limit ourselves to any single area.

If you want to take anything away from this, it is this. Never, ever, ever give up on your dreams. I am living proof that perseverance and passion will take you wherever it is that you want to go!

Five Annoying Words

27 Thursday Oct 2016

Posted by Darielle Brooklyn in Family, Friendship, Grief, How to, Inspiration, Uncategorized

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How many times have you heard these words:

Everything happens for a reason.

I believe in fate but seriously? That sentence can destroy us. It is also completely untrue. Some things, absolutely. But everything? Absolutely not!

If you have ever faced a tragedy and someone tells you that your tragedy was meant to happen or that it happened for a reason, even that it will make you a better person, you have every right to be upset and even go so far as to remove that person from your life.

Grief is brutally painful. There are so many facets to grief. Grief does not only occur when someone dies. It can occur when relationships fall apart, when opportunities are shattered, or when dreams die. It can even occur when you are struck with a serious illness.

Remember these words instead:

Some things in life cannot be fixed. Some things in life can only be carried. 

These words are poignant and they aim right at the pathetic platitudes our culture has come to embody on an increasingly hopeless level. Losing a loved one cannot be fixed. Being diagnosed with a debilitating illness cannot be fixed. Facing the betrayal of your closest confidante cannot be fixed. These things certainly did not happen for a reason.  They damn well cannot be fixed! These things can only be carried.

Sometimes devastation can lead to growth, but the truth is, it often doesn’t. The reality is that devastation more often destroys lives. And the true calamity is that this happens because we choose to replace grieving with advice.

After living through traumatic devastation, I choose to and now live an extraordinary life. I’ve been greatly blessed by those in my life, the opportunities I’ve had and the life I’ve built for myself and for my family. Loss has not made me a better person. Sadly, in some ways, it has hardened me.

I have always been a very loving and caring person. My losses have made me even more aware and empathetic of the pain of others. On the other hand, I also have a more cynical view of some and have developed impatience with those who are unfamiliar with what loss does to people. It’s true that you don’t get it until you live it but there are some that don’t even try to understand it. It can be quite frustrating.

I’ve had people tell me to “get over it,” or  that those who passed away “would want you to be happy.”

I am happy.  I have sad moments.  People don’t “get it.”

If anyone tells you that all is not lost, that your situation happened for a reason, or even that you’ll become better as a result of your pain, you may want to choose to let them go.

I’m not saying you should. That is entirely to decide. It isn’t an easy decision to make and should be made carefully. The fact is that you can.

The ones who helped were those who were there when I needed them. And said nothing.   They were just there. But in those moments, they did everything.

I am alive and I survived because of my deep love for my family. I survived and because of those who chose to love me and help me.  When you are loved in silence, when people suffer with you, when they watch you in your darkest moments and see you emotionally destroyed and they love you through it, you survive.

When a person is devastated by grief, the last thing they need is advice. Their world has been shattered. At this time, we can acknowledge their pain and let them know that we are there with them. It is important to be with your loved one, suffer with them, listen to them, but please do not give them advice.

Acknowledging someone is powerful. It requires no education, training or skills.  All you need to do is to simply be present as long as is necessary, comforting the wounded soul of your loved one.

Be there. Do not leave when you feel uncomfortable or when you feel like you’re not doing anything to help. Because it is then – in the shadows of horror –  where healing is truly found. When others are willing to enter that sacred space with us, it is very powerful and very healing.

Be one of these people.  Unfortunately, one day you will find yourself in need of one of these people. Find them. They will help you heal and not try to fix you with advice.  They will help you carry your pain. These people are keepers.

Fate. Be that person and when you need them, they will be that person for you. That can happen for a reason.

 

Skills for Self-Motivation

15 Monday Feb 2016

Posted by Darielle Brooklyn in Motivation, Uncategorized

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In simple terms, self-motivation is the force that drives you to get things done. Motivation is the desire to do things. It is the crucial element in setting and achieving personal goals.

Your success in life will almost entirely depend upon whether you are able to motivate yourself. Fact: a self-motivated average person will always outperform a genius who is unable to get moving.

Self-motivation is similar to that of a muscle. The more you exercise it, the stronger it will become. Similar to that of a muscle, in order to work to its potential, it needs to be exercised in various ways. When motivation is exercised properly, it is then that it will serve your goals.

Regardless of where one is in life in terms of things such as age, weight, career, finances or marital status, many of us need self-motivation tips to be successful.

Many things are required to be successful, such as experience, education, financial support or connections. The most powerful thing needed for success is an interior force which is entirely in your control. It is self-motivation. The fact of the matter is: it doesn’t matter what you know, who you know or where you are. Self-motivation is necessary to be successful.

I am going to discuss some methods for you to strengthen your self-motivation.

Surround Yourself with Motivated People

Surround yourself with people that will inspire you. These people will provide motivation to help you achieve your goals. They will empower you to make the necessary changes you need in order to succeed. When you surround yourself with motivated people with goals, you too will want to achieve your own goals as well. People with the same goal can be powerful. Being part of a team increases our determination, stamina and courage.

Goal Identity

Reachable goals are specific goals.

In order to get motivated, your first need to figure out your specific goals. Get as specific as possible. Whether it’s a change of career, going back to school, getting in shape, or finding a significant other, make sure it is an attainable goal. Your brain can help you accomplish anything if it knows precisely what it is you are aiming for.

Goal Timeline

Once you have decided upon your attainable goals, write them down. Next to each goal, write down a realistic deadline. The goal doesn’t need to be met by the exact date you choose. It is simply a time frame. When you have a time frame, psychologically you play a private game and you start to hold yourself accountable. When you write your goals down with a realistic deadline, your goals become real rather than remain thoughts that you simply toss around in your head.

Knowing Why

Knowing the reason why you want to achieve a particular goal will enhance positive emotion. This emotion will bring positive energy to your goal. The more you focus on the reason why, the better your chances of succeeding in reaching your goal.

Plan of Action

It may help to have a planner so that you can see your plan of action. You will see what is expected of you each day to reach daily and weekly goals. This will keep you on schedule and allow you to focus on the end result. This is definitely a way to stay motivated.

Stop Procrastinating

People that have a difficulty with motivation are usually procrastinators. They’ve fallen into the habit of putting things off. This habit is sometimes caused by feeling overwhelmed and that in itself will keep you from taking the steps necessary to reach your goal.

Procrastination is the opposite of inspiration.

A simple change in your thought process from “I have to” to “I want to” will help motivate you. Try it!

Did you ever hear of the Two Minute Rule? If it takes two minutes to do or less, DO IT NOW! Start there. You’ll begin to see a shift from procrastination to motivation immediately.

Visualize Your Choices

If you’re looking for motivation, visualize two paths.

The first path is the one you’ve been on. If you stay on this path you will be exactly where you are now, in a day, a week, a month or a year.

The second path is the path where steps are taken to achieve your goal. Visualize what that looks and feels like. Are you happier? Healthier? Are you more productive? Are you better financially?

Two paths. You have choices. Right here and right now.

Change Your Attitude

We all know that a positive attitude goes a long way. The attitude you have on a daily basis is crucial. It can make you or break you. A negative attitude will drain your energy. If you depleted of energy, you will lose motivation. Rather, start practicing positive thinking. Successful people are positive people. A positive attitude is critical for success.

A positive attitude will bring positive results. A negative attitude will bring negative results. Which attitude are you going to choose?

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The reality is that you can spend your life waiting for motivation to kick in. Unfortunately, it may never happen. As I stated, at this moment, you have a choice to take action. Once you take that first step of action, you open up the flood gates of opportunity to embrace motivation.

Remember, there are two paths. One year from this exact moment, you will be another year older no matter what. You are free to choose your path but the choices you make today will affect what you see next year when you look back.

I wish you luck on your journey and I will leave you with this final quote.

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